Adoption is big business
 Birthmother's
Day Celebrations and Ceremonies - Why Not?
A natural mother is a mother, she is not an incubator to be used
as the source of a baby for adoption. A mother should rightfully be
called a "mother" - NEVER "birthmother" ("birth
thing"); Likewise a mother should be honored on Mother's Day.
Here is a fantastic article explaining what is wrong with having
a "Birthmother's Day". "Birthmother's
Day". In Rebuttal of 'Celebrating Motherhood' by Josee Larose.
A
Personal Response to Birthmother's Day by Bryony Lake
Honor Women as Mothers on Mother's Day - Not as Breeders on "Birthmother's Day" (a press release by OriginsUSA)
Some people say they appreciate "birthmothers". These same
people will tell you they appreciate toilet paper and tampons. The
toilet paper has a purpose and the "birth thing" has a purpose
as well. Even a turd has a purpose. Usually the tissue and the shit
are discarded and flushed away. Sometimes however, a turd may be shellaced
as joke and sold in a gift shop or tourist trap. Likewise a "birthmother"
may be kept around as a curiousity - but she must know her "place"
and never claim she is the mother of her own son or daughter. Some
adopters even like use the abbreviation "BM" rather than
even the dehumanizing term "birthmother" or "birthmom".
Calling a child's mother a "bowel movement"? How fitting!
It's sort of like using the word "nigger" instead of "Negro".
Adoption is all about those who have power taking advantage or the
powerless and the naive. Children are taken from a helpless mother
and sold off by brokers just like the slave auctions. You don't like
the looks of this slave baby? Well, don't buy her, then - wait for
a healthier specimen!
"Birthmother's Day" is a day upon which people "honor"
the women they have used as breeders, women who are viewed as "not
mothers". There are "Birthmother's Day" cards and "Birthmother's
Day" gifts and sometimes "Birthmother's Day parties. A mother
who has been ignored all year may be "lucky" and get a picture
of her child in the mail. Often the correspondence is forwarded by
some agency in order to keep the "loving" fearful adopter's
identity hidden from her.
On "Birthmother's Day" church people, religious leaders
and pro-lifers merrily join in thanking the moms for "choosing
life". But few of them would help a mother to keep her own baby.
Sadly, the pressure these "pro-life" groups place on a mother
to surrender her child has resulted in many women seeking out abortions.
Unique to the "adoption community", "Birthmother's
Day" is not a time to celebrate but a time for mothers to grieve
the simulated death of their child.
In "open" adoption where the adoptions have been closed,
some of the moms get together on their own for a "Birthmother's
Day" ceremony. After all, who else can understand the magnitude
of the "sacrifice" they made so that their child could have
a "better life"? Who else can comprehend how pressured they
were, how they felt they had no choice, no help to keep their child,
no way out of a desperate situation? Who else can understand planning
an "entrustment ceremony" - an odd masochistic ritual in
which a desperate mother hands over her child to unrelated persons?
Who else can understand what it's like to go year after year without
raising your child, maybe never once hearing your own child laugh
or never having the opportunity to proudly introduce him to friends
as you son?
Perhaps their child does have an ocean view and lots of computer
games. Perhaps he got olympic training. Perhaps he is glad to be rid
of the "birth thing" that, in his mind, deserted him. If
so, does that make it easier on a mother? Perhaps the mother's child
was not the "lucky bastard" but got an ordinary upbringing
without being "re-born" into a wealthy adoption situation
with a silver spoon in his mouth. Perhaps the adopters tired of their
little adopted "pet" once he grew past the stage of cuteness.
So much for celebrating "birthmothers". Moms, in the future
remember - you ARE your child's "mother", not a "birth
thing". Find real help - do
not surrender your child for adoption.
Birthfather's Day Celebrations
This concept is tricky - "Birthfather's day" - or would
that be "Birth Father's Day"?. Well lets face it - many
fathers were also conned into "open" adoption or closed
adoption. Often their parents put them up to it, not wanting their
sons to have to take responsibility for their children. Some fathers,
like mothers, fall for the idea that a child needs to be raised by
two unrelated married people rather than her own mother and father,
if they are single when their child is born.
"Is life so dear, or peace so sweet, as to be purchased at
the price of chains or slavery? Forbid it, Almighty God! I know
not what course others may take but as for me; give me liberty or
give me death!"
Patrick Henry
Article: Why
"Dear Birthmother" Letters and Adoption Solicitation Should
be Outlawed
Read More: Adoption
- Is Heritage a Human Right?
Article: Honor Women as Mothers on Mother's Day not as Breeders on Birthmother's Day
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