Iowa Adoption Search / Support Groups

Adoptee and "Birth Family" Search / Support Group Listing - Iowa

Adoption Search and Support Group - Iowa

Des Moines, IA area. Contact Virginia (adoptee) at 515-274-2311or Isabelle (natural mother) at 515-707-1553

Adoption Search and Support Group is for people "touched by" adoption. Contact us. A phone call can change your life for the better.

 

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A word about terminology:

The word "birthmother" is used here for search engine placement ONLY. No mother is an incubator or "birth thing" - she is a human being, a mother.

Labeling single mothers (and other family members) as "unwed" or “birthmothers” ("birthmom", “birth father”) makes it seem that they are merely an object meant be used as the source of a baby for adoption. This dehumanizing “birth” terminology is similar to the label “bastard” except that it is applied to the family not the child. It denies the relatedness of natural family members. Siblings, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, grandson, granddaughter, grandchild, child, grandmother, grandfather, ancestors, relative etc.

Using words implying a mother can have an “ex” relationship with her child and be a mother only prior to or at birth is very misleading. A person usually gets over an ex boyfriend or girlfriend, but a mother will never get over the loss of her child. Losing the opportunity to raise her child, even if her child is still alive, will affect a mother for life. Even most people who have adopted an unrelated child will tell you that losing that child after nine months together would be a great loss for them. For a natural mother whose child is adopted-out, the loss may increase over time as she misses out on the moments they might have had together.

Adopted child? "Birthmother"? Scared and feeling alone or lonely, embarrassed or ashamed? Sometimes just talking to someone who has "been there" - who can help you with the wording of a letter or let you cry - or laugh - about a situation dealing with an agency or social worker "counselor" can be a great relief. Even hearing a caring voice on the phone can be helpful. In-person support is really great if you can find it. Is it better to contact someone through email, telephone, snail mail or just show up on their doorstep? Is it better to hold back some information so they might contact you again? You have a right to contact your long-lost relatives. But, what is the best way to do it? Will agencies or state social workers censor your letters and cards? What reaction might you get from your son, daughter, natural mother? Should you leave a phone number before you state your business? Does that mean your relative just needs some time to adjust emotionally?

What emotions can you expect and how long until you adjust emotionally in your healing journey? Learn from others experiences.

Adoption Search / Support Groups - Iowa

Adoptee and "birth parent, birthmother, birth mother, father" search / support group listing - Iowa, (Cedar Rapids, Des Moines, Coralville, Iowa City, IA)

Adoption Search and Support Group - Iowa

Des Moines, IA area. Contact Virginia (adoptee) at 515-274-2311or Isabelle (natural mother) at 515-707-1553

Adoption Search and Support Group is for people "touched by" adoption. Contact us. A phone call can change your life for the better.

Iowa Adoption Support Groups - Adopted child or "birth parent"?

Adoptee and "birth parent, birthmother, birth mother, father" search / support group listing - Iowa, (Cedar Rapids, Des Moines, Coralville, Iowa City, IA)

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