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Adoption Myths Debunked

We shall overcome adoption lossUsing Labels to Bastardize Natural Family

Many in our society judge parents on the basis of a single factor - marital state. Labeling single mothers (and other family members) as “birthmothers” (“birth fathers”, “birth siblings”, etc.) makes it seem that these mothers are not their child’s own mother but merely an object meant be used as the source of a baby for adoption. This dehumanizing “birth” terminology is similar to the label “bastard” except that it is applied to the family not the child. It denies the relationship between family members.

Using words implying a mother can have an “ex” relationship with her child and be a mother only prior to and at birth is very misleading. A person usually gets over an ex boyfriend or girlfriend, but a mother will never get over the loss of her child. Losing the opportunity to raise her child, even if her child is still alive, will affect a mother for life. Even most people who have adopted an unrelated child will tell you that losing that child after nine months together would be a great loss for them. For a natural mother whose child is adopted-out, the loss increases over time as she misses out on the moments they might have had together.

 

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