Adoption Myths Debunked

"A child is better off raised by an unrelated married couple than by her own parents if her mother is single at the time she is born."

"A child is better off raised by an older person than by her young mother."

"A child is better off with wealth than with her own mother or father."

Most statements made about adoption are sweeping generalizations like those above, based more on prejudice than reality. They do not take into account a specific situation or the real emotional needs of a child or his mother. The consequences of unplanned pregnancy can last a lifetime.

In countries like Australia women and men are protected from adoption scams and there are very few adoptions. Read the following information and consider it carefully.

• Known Consequences of Separating a Mother and Child
• Open Adoption - Risks to Natural Moms and Siblings
• Are Teenage Mothers Unfit Delinquents?
• Using Labels To Bastardize Natural Family
• Have Things Changed?
• She Will Have More Children Later
• A Child Needs a Father
• Comparison of Adoption Practices in North America and Australia
• Adoption vs. Abortion
• Addressing the Infertility Crisis
• "Right" to Adopt

From an adopted person, explaining the hurt of having been surrendered to adoption:

"I was always told by my a-parents that 'bmom wanted to go to college'. THAT was the one and only reason I was given pretty much.

Is that a good enough reason??????

It was me, or it was college. Well, sorry, you lose. "

Note to adoptees: Your mom was probably prompted by social workers about what to put down on the paperwork - she had no idea how the information would later be used against her. She was pressured by her parents and led to believe both of you would be dirt poor forever - with no food, no diapers, no nothing - if she kept you. Sadly, with only a little help she might have been able to keep you AND finish school.

Note to pregnant mothers: Look for single mothers groups and ideas on how to keep and nurture your own child.

"There may be times when we are powerless to prevent injustice, but there must never be a time when we fail to protest." - Elie Wiesel

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